I didnt ask him to deactivate his account that was his decision. He was always on his phone . The problem is that hes bored. This relationship counselor says 92% of men who cheat are sexually satisfied at home. I to prayed That The Lord would reveal to me what I needed to know! Honey, I know you dont want to hear this, but PLEASE get away from him while you are young and still can!! You dont need someone to tell you that you are right or acting appropriately. From June of last year to March of 2011, he lived and worked in a different city. You have to take this journey and I pray along the way, you find the real Jennifer in all her glory, living life and loving life as it should be. Your husband has been running you into the ground & you are a clever, articulate, spirited woman!! Get psychologial help. It sounds like your husband is trying to hide his activities from you, and that you suspect he is cheating. He said he had set this site up for his friend who he went to visit a few weeks ago. I want to stay with him, but am afraid he did sleep with this woman. Complete access to everything the minute I found out. He doesnt run away when I bring things up but I can tell he doesnt really want to talk about it either yet he listens and doesnt get crazed. Im glad it helped you, and hope it helps others who might be in the same situation. Then I asked him why he went (when before when he went, acted as if he was soooo bored, he even called me from his cell). Thank you for sharing your experience here, with us. So we figured me moving in with my brother would be a good in between until we could get a place (alone) together. I accidently discovered some condoms in his suitcase. May you find guidance and support from other people who have traveled a similar road, who can help you make the right choices about your future. Even if there are children, no children or adult should live like this.my guess he is cheating. I think he uses emails to contact them via another online account and then uses another company truck to go to these appointments. If i ask him he pretends he hates her so much coz of what she did to him in the past. It was weirdhe says he loves me and talks about future plans and is looking for a house to buy for us but when I talk to him about my feelings he changes the subject a lot or doesnt look like he is listeningsorry this is so long but please pleases help me with some advice. I just dont get as upset like I used to because of his inability to give me emotional intamacy. what are your thoughts on this situation? So about 2 hours ago, I calmly told him how I recently seen a picture of a woman he knew from a previous job. Thats what she has girlfriends for so text them and leave my husband out of your drama. He doesnt seem to care much about what Ive been doing. Honestly, it does not feel natural. The best 1st birthday present she received. I have done nothing to him ive never cheated on him never flirted with guys. If your suspicions are not confirmed, breathe and live on together. I learned about the affair Christmas morning. He made his choices. they refer to each other as baby. Watch his reaction and be aware that he can talk himself out of a wet paper bag and then listen to your gut. 5 Signs, 5 Ways to Respond When Your Boyfriend Stops Texting, Are You in Love With a Married Man? I just felt he was having an affair because the way he acted towards me subtly changed. I think my husband has had an affair. Do you trust God or a Higher Power to take care of you, love you, and give you the life you deserve? We get sick ourselves being with someone like this because we are codependent. On that day, Nov 21st, 2013, I found out he was sexting another woman. I felt sick, he was crying and I told him you were not crying when you did this. The only thing you can do is take it one day at a time, and listen to your gut instincts. We all do and hurt or not I want to make things better. His mom died of cancer and the truth came out on her death bed..she lived in fear all their married life. Apr 21, 2013. If I could help you, what would you like me to do? Once you read some of this youll have an idea of what to do. I havebeen married for 16 years and been with my husband total 19 years.I have caught him about 6 times he has freinds that are females. He has cheated in the past, multiple times, before we were married. I said theres no excuse why ur texting her, if she wont leave u alone why are you texting her? hire a private investigator to spy on him and get your proof. if yes why cant you see until you finish the counselling process result and decide, i cant advice you for devorce but this depend to you, sit with your husband and solve the problem this is a very small somthing just becouse there is another woman involved, are they having kids together? He is some what awkward in things, but over all, people enjoy his company except they always ask me..why is he so quiet? I feel like he is leading a dual life like having two families. On one day, We visited the marine house and altough it is not permitted, we to his room. Thank you. u deserve much better. If he wasnt happy, he should have suggested marriage counseling for you both rather than starting a relationship with someone else. I know has signs of cheating all over that. Yep men cheat no matter what. So the issue of cheating, has nothing to do with sex, so if you want your man to be honest with you, you first need to be honest with your self. I dont get it. I checked his Facebook page while I was at it. I was starting to get suspicious so I then asked my friend Amy if she would take me to her place to see if she had gotten home okay and to convince me that I am just scared of getting hurt again by another man. He sent a text so i got to see it. I cannot tell you if you should stay with your cheating husband, but I do believe he will not change. I mean who goes on there honeymoon and leaves his new wife in bed well your down at the bar getting drunk with another woman and going for a walk on the beach. I used to be petite and 105 pounds after my first daughter I gained almost 100 pounds. Is it even possible to have him fall in love with me again, or should I leave and give up on him ever loving me again? This is why I commented on your post (experience). Thanks for sharing this article. He gave me his pass code to his phone and email password and he never keeps his phone attached to him when he sleeps or is in the house and he leaves it laying around me.but could this be my paranoia? I decided to do my own thing as far as dating. !I Have been married for 11 yearsI suspect that my husband is cheating on myfor all 11 years.Im 28 and he is 33..He is always out with his friends i meen always FROM DAY ONE THAT WE GOT MARIED,He never likes to take me out,he goes to the gym every day,we have sex 2 time in 6 monthsSometimes once in yearWe have two kidsI .I really love my husband ,I DONT KNOW ANY MORE,,,I FEEL SOMETHING IS GOING ONI fund condom in his working truck ,but we never use condom for us..Im very madHe denies everything.What to do???:(. after being together for a few months we got married and all I could think was how wonderful he was and what a blessing he is to me and my daughter. Multiple sexual encounters with the same woman while i was pregnant with our daughters. They dont have childrenHe is still cheating wht a woman named Cecilia for the past 9 years. i think is good that you found out about his game, dont tell him you know he is having an affairs, play your card wisely , do not panic and approach the other lady, calm down and think of your future. Come to find out this lady had left her husband a few yrs ago for another man at the plant and he works the opposite shift as them. My Mother passed away only last week and now I have this to deal with. 2. When we arrived over there she was not there and her boyfriend looked very angry at us. He also admitted that he had been regularly deleting his FB history but that he was careless this one time and forgot to do it. We had many problems but there was always a level if trust that I really didnt question. He quotes it. They text each other often she calls when him when he at work often. been married for 7years, 1year ago i find out that my husband been cheated on me coz i found out picture of the girl of his bedroom and vedio of the girl taking shower to his own bathroom that time i was 9 months pregnant to my 2ndchild and i was on my own country and he was on overseas work, and he tell it wasnt his girl it was his friend i dont believe because he got all the pictures and video to his hardisc he just keep telling me that he did not cheat on me before that why i was thinking that he cheated on me because he change a lot, he became more angry, he tried to avoid an conversetion to me.. and saying we need to save money bla bla bla.. but he never been like that before.but i want to save my mirrage but i dont know coz sexually we never been making love for 1 and 1/2 year now.. i just dont know what to do, one more he spent more time in the computer than to us, My husband of 4 years said to me yesterday out of the blue that im boring in bed im like an old woman and that i pushed him to other women then quickly changed his answer to your gonna push me toi asked him how can we be intimate if i go to bed EVERY night alone. The Holy Spirit will reveal all things. I have no way of catching him at anything he hides his browsing history on his computer, etc. She cuts conversations short and shows no intrest in me what so ever. i cheated on him once after he hit me and I was going to break up with him. Id talk to a counselor and divorce lawyer as soon as possible, just to start thinking about what lies ahead if you decide to leave. I got married late 2009 and my husband must be the worst husband ever. Thank you for sharing your story here; my heart goes out to you and your husband. Leaning away from you is a sign of a cheating, lying husband because we lean away from things we want to avoid. 2. My prayer is that you know and accept the truth, and that you find ways to move forward in your life. In June 2015, he did not come home one night. He is very handsome, and I always tell him how attractive he is. My husband dosent show me the attention that he used to and I spend hours in the gym keeping fit and healthy while he slobs out on the couch wathcing golf! I say where text a friend of his stating that he just put one of the realest girl her had ever met on a plane. So, your future husband may not be lying about cheating (unless of course you believe that visiting a cheating website is cheating, which I do). So my husband (of 2 years married, 5 together, son together) was caught cheating with his baby momma(who is scum and a horrible mother) he didnt want to admit it. My kids were brought up in that messed up house, where they didnt see a strong woman, their mother, me because I didnt know how to say Im sooo unhappy, I want you to leave & never come back.no more explanations!! So when you say to check his phone and email I already do so he would know how to hide it really good specially sense he knows a lot about computers. During our marriage 3 years ago he got and 18 year pregnant, I stayed with him as long as I could. And if she knew he was doing things with me, then she would txt. I mean a professional, who wont necessarily take sides, but who can help you figure out if your suspicions are coming from you or your husband. Lol. I hope youre okay now. Why arent wives DEMANDING to have the passwords to these phones? I do think it is a type of cheating and he hides his phone when he gets texts and stuff. I did look at his recent calls and didnt find number. My husband worked for a female boss in 2007-2010 during the economic crisis, the company suffered huge financial loss, and she begged him to stay on but stopped paying him. If youre really confused and worried about it, I encourage you to talk to a counselor in person. If you have further questions, feel free to ask! I must tell you, if want any chance at a happy life DUMP THAT MAN! bs 3. The sad part is I want my kids to have a mommy and daddy under one roof. Trying to contain all that toxic waste is very unhealthy. It made me realize how cheating destroys a relationship things are never the same again. I didnt know he had the problem with pills till we had been together for 2 years. Here are 4 signs he wants you back but won't admit it (yet). He stared me in the eye but wouldnt. Over the past three months, he has become defensive over things that dont make sense. Now, I just keep a diary to document his behavior. and he is having a friend for 5yrs, fighting involve.and you are saying you left the common house with the kids, When you argue with him you told him to leave, iam not blaming you but patient is always good thing. Be strong and show these men why they need women. But I am also terrified of investing more time and energy into someone who has let me down this early on in our relationship and risking getting hurt even more later. I never sensed that he is cheating on me, but my instint tells me he is. Tomorrow I will not cry over him ever again, How to Forgive Your Husband for Cheating While He Was Alive, 11 Undeniable Signs of Cheating Wisdom After the Affair, The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It, Is He Lying to You? I have experienced my partner being inappropriate with female colleagues. The better you know him, the easier youll spot the signs hes lying about cheating. I bet he wont mind (proving that he doesnt care if you find out about thoes msgs) and after you delete about 10, youd realize why he didnt delete them all, its just too frustrating. hi my name is kathryn and my husband has his own construction company and my son works for him times are hard so he let my sons girl frend work with him job was to wright estaments ride with him all day looking at jobs and no i didnt like this he also would carry viagra and pain pills with him and as you no he says nothing went on why cant i belive this.